nguyen89

In the beginning of my relationship
i would buy my gf everything and anything she wanted
but now it seems that i have spoiled her too much and now it seems as if she expects me to keep buying her things and giving her anything she wants
we get into arguments all the time now because i refuse to buy her stuff and spend money on her
its not like i don't want to but its cuz i have no money
she doesnt realize how much i spend on her
this really stresses me out.....what should i do

francisck

Relationships aren't about money or nice things. If you girlfriend expects that all the time and it seems like that is all she wants, I would have a nice reasonable talk with her and explain to her that relationships are not about money..if that doesn't work as her to buy you nice things...and point it out when she says no.

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nguyen89

she does buy me nice things when she has money as well
but she just expects too much things from me when she knows i dont have the money
i guess she was the only child and was spoiled by her parents

DaviD

she needs to learn not to expect so much from you
a relationship should not be about material things
you need to talk to her and let her know that you will no longer spoil her anymore
not that you don't want to, but because you dont have the money right now
even if she understands, make sure she actually stops forcing you to buy her things
if she can;t do that
then shes not worth your time and money anymore

Brandy

From a girls point of view..

Have you told her you don't have the money to do what you used to ?. She may think it's all the same so she thinks you can still spend money like crazy. Just tell her you're not making the same, and you have more responsability's then before ( I'm guessing this is true )
Don't cut off buying her stuff for good. She's used to getting things from you, so buy her flowers every now and then.. just so she know's you still want to spend the money, but can. Get her involved in what your money goes to, so she can see what your balance is .. and that you can't throw it all on her.. you need stuff yourself. But also, little things will make her happy. Buy her bubble bath next time your at the drugstore. A 3$ things can make her day without breaking the bank.

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M781

i think that love=money ....

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Originally Posted by M781 i think that love=money ....

I second that. Though lets say 80% of the time, dont wanna offend the girls too much xD.

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Axel

Tell her you would buy her a pink pony if you could fucking afford it, but you have to support yourself!

I used that line once. Works like a charm.

M781

nice !
oh maybe if she's 9 years old !

deasy

Lol, I wouldn't mind a full grown horse
But it's the thought that counts, lol

I guess if the arguements keep up, then just tell her you're spending too much or something. If that doesn't work, then keep the receipts and show it to her. o.o''

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Brandy

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Originally Posted by deasy Lol, I wouldn't mind a full grown horse But it's the thought that counts, lol

Lool. So.. if someone said ' i'm thinking about buying you a horse' you'd be drawn to them rather then if they actually buy you one ?

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