I'm a terrible friend - what do I do?

AnthonyJGizzarelli · 06-16-2009, 09:26 PM

..*sigh* I'm a terrible person. I know it was a mistake, but it doesn't change the fact that I did it. I had been sprung off of this girl for over a year and we almost went out but I didn't have the balls to tell her a year ago and we went our separate ways..

We had always been a little bit flirty after, and I adore this girl to this day, even though I recently cut off all communication with her to get over her.

She started dating my best friend (whom she still is dating today) and after a year of them dating, on spring break, I had sex with her. I plan on telling him this summer, but I'm scared.

Do I tell him or let the problem float away? I don't know what to do.

Semper Fidelis,

A.J.

babyheg · 06-16-2009, 10:00 PM

=( You're not a terrible person; things happen and you can't change that but the fact you resent that stuff just goes to show that you're actually considerate and a good friend but slip up and make mistakes like the rest of us.

Good luckk.

Reverence · 06-16-2009, 10:45 PM

Yeah, just tell 'em
Like babyheg said, people make mistakes.

N3phiLim · 06-17-2009, 12:14 AM

umm.....ok i dont wanna sound rude or anything, but i dont think i like that girl. no offense!
i mean, she was dating your friend when you guys made out right??? so why the heck did she do it??? she has been dating your friend for one whole year for crying out loud. she is the one who should be feeling guilty not you. =|

TheLittleHippy. · 06-17-2009, 04:35 AM

Honey? Your not a terrible person, your a legend. Really I'm sorry I know it's wrong and you shouldn't of done it, but you went after what you wanted and I respect that. Okay so maybe you have hurt people in the long run, but you are not in a relationship here, she is. So really it was her call and it's on her head, she could of said no. She is the one with the boyF.

AnthonyJGizzarelli · 06-17-2009, 12:04 PM

I see what you guys mean, thanks. :) I'll talk to my boy and tell him wasup.

TheLittleHippy. · 06-17-2009, 02:02 PM

I'm sorry but she was in the wrong not you.

**Brandy** · 06-17-2009, 02:07 PM

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I think you're both in the wrong, takes two to tango. Yeah sure you both made a mistake but he's your best friend and you knew they were going out for a long time.

Anyways, you should both talk. Ask her how she feels about what happend. Tell her if she doesn't tell him, you will.

TheLittleHippy. · 06-17-2009, 02:19 PM

Shes the one with the boyF it was her call.

**Brandy** · 06-17-2009, 02:30 PM

Well it was his bf, his call too.

Diplomat · 06-17-2009, 06:11 PM

Cut the bull poop.

What you did was wrong. If you havenâ€™t told the other person already you should. The truth will set you free.
Sleeping with your friendâ€™s girl? That is just cruel. Sure you were into her, and she apparently was into you. But goodness, you should have shown some self control.
And you canâ€™t pin this on her. She didnâ€™t rape you or anything.

strange4eva · 06-20-2009, 02:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brandy

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I think you're both in the wrong, takes two to tango. Yeah sure you both made a mistake but he's your best friend and you knew they were going out for a long time.

Anyways, you should both talk. Ask her how she feels about what happend. Tell her if she doesn't tell him, you will.

I most definately agree.

it takes two to tango, and three for a mÃ©nage Ã* trois! you should include the bf on your next go. (just kidding) :p

Disenchanted · 06-21-2009, 04:28 AM

yea I'm ganna go out and say you stuffed up big time, like yea, there's a lesson to be learnt their. The right thing to do is probably tell him or get her to tell him and then will he might hate you if my friend slept with my bf I'd hate both of them and cry for like a month and lose all faith in humanity ^_^ Sorry for the bad news.

I don't hate you for what you did.... and it was a mistake and you can be forgiven.

Up to you what you do.... but letting it go probably isn't a right thing to do.

Seriously you've dug yourself a nice hole and there's not many ways out of it.

Good luck with it all

I just don't want to lie to you....