Family problems

SugarLips · 10-04-2008, 11:18 AM

Everyone has their family problems but mine are astronomical.
My mother is inconsiderate of my feelings. My brother just got his girlfriend pregant and she's having problems with them.. but takes her anger out on me. She's always yelling at me. I never bring my friends over to our house because she'll yell at me right infront of them. I can't take this anymore. Everytime she gets in an argument with my brother, or her brother or who ever i'm the one paying for it. Her brother just came over and they were talking about some money he owed her (Like 2,000) and she turned around and told me that if it wasn't for me she wouldn't need to ask for the money back. My dad just commited suicide and he had worked since he was 16 in the military. So we have money, she just decides to blame it on me the reason she put all her money in RRSP and can't touch it.

The night we found out my father did what he did (He din't live with us) my mom NEVER gave me a hug, or said 'im sorry' she stayed as far away from me as possible. When I'd try to hug her she'd tell me to go sit down. They havn't been together for like 10 years now so she wasn't soo sad. During the funeral the same..
Siriously I think she dosn't like me. Like I'm the worst thing that could of happend.
A few months she was dating this guy who came over for a weekend and never left. He'd tell me everytime I took something from my fridge that I needed to lose weight and I should put it back. My mom always heard him say that and agreed. It hurt SOOO much knowing she thought I should lose weight. So now, I have a eating disorder. I'll eat.. but hardly. She dosn't care. Her friends have told her ' She's lost alot of weight, is she okay ' even my brothers tried talking to her but her response is always 'She just wants attention'.
She gave each my brothers, and their girlfriends 2,000$ for their birthday. I got 50$. She says's I ask for alot.. but i'm the one always paying for it with the pension I get. She says I'm spoild and that she's the one always paying for my nail's and tells everyone I blow my money on junk. I have to pay for my dog, my bunny, my nails and well.. Everyone has stuff they want. Siriously I think I'm hated here..

sparrowhawk100 · 10-05-2008, 01:39 AM

Damn, that's rough. You have it bad.

cynnie · 10-05-2008, 02:05 AM

awww poor you >.< it may seem like she hates you but no parent can seriously hate their child . she's jus stressin alot cause of all those problems, hopefully she'll get over them and stop bein' the way she is :/ have you try talkin' to her about how you feel ? maybe she'll understand wat you're goin through if you talk to her about it . sorry to hear that about your dad . suicide isnt a way out of things.. keep your head up serena ! ^^

DaviD · 10-07-2008, 12:23 AM

wow i'm sorry to hear that
first off, try to get your weight back to a healthy one
second, your mom shouldn't be blaming you for your dad's death or taking it out on you for her being sad
your not hated for your mom
shes just taking out her anger on you for some reason
like cynthia said
you should try having a serious talk with your mom
and tell her how you feel and ask her how she feels and why she has been asking the way she has towards you

goodbadugly · 10-17-2008, 01:51 AM

Thats deep, dont let it get you into depression or even if you are i recommend you just leave your family. im not saying run away from home but, go build a life outside your family. i know your family is part of your life but its better just to run away for a while and keep yourself busy from your family(job, hobbie, boyfriend=] or girlfriend ;] and be independent dont rely on your mom for anything). to be honest i've been doing that for years. i've never been better. im not saying compelely cut out your family but just keep a distance from your family, the ones that you makes you feel like dog poo :[ i cant really speak for you but for me i dont hang out with any of my family beside few of my cousins like david who is on this forum

(HARROS DAVID!) yeah it sucks, but its okay i have friends that i consider family and also the few family members i love and gald they're part of my life. Honestly just be dependent on your mom for now and try to get out of there and be your own person(that should be your goal xD thats if you want too . _.;

. thats probably the best. I care about my family but i just cant live with them. what i do is just ignore my family. i dont talk to any of them its fine. im more happier that way. but one good advice dont ever cut bridges but keep it protected at all times(what im saying is dont compelely cut ties with your family just keep a safe distance where you dont get drag into the family drama). i dont know you well enough or your family maybe you love your family maybe you dont thats fine. Hey, you could be the worst thing that could happened or you can be the best thing that could happened. just know that no one is at fault and you have choices. <3

sorry to hear about your Father Serena, hes at a better place where his heart is at peace.

DaviD · 10-17-2008, 07:22 AM

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Originally Posted by goodbadugly

Thats deep, dont let it get you into depression or even if you are i recommend you just leave your family. im not saying run away from home but, go build a life outside your family. i know your family is part of your life but its better just to run away for a while and keep yourself busy from your family(job, hobbie, boyfriend=] or girlfriend ;] and be independent dont rely on your mom for anything). to be honest i've been doing that for years. i've never been better. im not saying compelely cut out your family but just keep a distance from your family, the ones that you makes you feel like dog poo :[ i cant really speak for you but for me i dont hang out with any of my family beside few of my cousins like david who is on this forum

(HARROS DAVID!) yeah it sucks, but its okay i have friends that i consider family and also the few family members i love and gald they're part of my life. Honestly just be dependent on your mom for now and try to get out of there and be your own person(that should be your goal xD thats if you want too . _.;

. thats probably the best. I care about my family but i just cant live with them. what i do is just ignore my family. i dont talk to any of them its fine. im more happier that way. but one good advice dont ever cut bridges but keep it protected at all times(what im saying is dont compelely cut ties with your family just keep a safe distance where you dont get drag into the family drama). i dont know you well enough or your family maybe you love your family maybe you dont thats fine. Hey, you could be the worst thing that could happened or you can be the best thing that could happened. just know that no one is at fault and you have choice. <3

sorry to hear about your Father Serena, hes at a better place where his heart is at peace.

that's deep

SugarLips · 10-17-2008, 01:51 PM

Thanks Peter.

goodbadugly · 10-18-2008, 01:47 PM

anytime xD

SugarLips · 10-18-2008, 02:45 PM

You guys are awsome to me

Ryan · 11-04-2008, 05:49 PM

Hi Sugar lips,

What I’m about to say may be hard for you to hear but you must listen!

Your mom is having a huge mental brake down, she’s so over whelmed with your bother and his issues and she’s trying to look after you, then your father committed suicide wich probably throw her over the edge, that’s a lot for one person to carry on there shoulders.

I also understand how you can getting the shit thrown at you all the time, The best thing I can say is your mom still loves you with all her heart, even though sometimes she may act resentful towards you, trust me!

Your family is strong you just don’t know it yet!

Since your mom is so over whelmed with everything going on in her life you must stay strong, make wise dissensions, she’ll be proud of you I grantee it!

Master you’re mind,
Concur you’re life,
Live stress free!

SugarLips · 11-04-2008, 07:55 PM

Yeah , I guess..

M781 · 11-18-2008, 12:48 PM

every problem has a solution .....

SugarLips · 11-18-2008, 03:35 PM

Yeah, It's just to find it

leigh. · 11-18-2008, 08:42 PM

Someone out there always has it worse.
You have your life, because you're the only one that could handle it, if someone else had your life and problems they wouldn't know what to do, they wouldn't have the patience to deal with it, and vice versa you couldn't handle ayone elses life.

It's life.

SugarLips · 11-21-2008, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by leigh.

Someone out there always has it worse.
You have your life, because you're the only one that could handle it, if someone else had your life and problems they wouldn't know what to do, they wouldn't have the patience to deal with it, and vice versa you couldn't handle ayone elses life.

It's life.

I know, it's life. Although like others said, theres a soluton. You din't need to be rude and state the obvious.