Can anyone give me advice?

Unknown · 06-14-2009, 07:01 AM

I don't really know if this has happened to anyone or if anyone can help but here's my story:

I've lived in my town for 11 years and recently started going out with a lad from my school. We've been a couple for a year and have been getting along fine, no arguements or affairs or anything. We see each other almost every day and then my mum decided to sell out house so we can move to Scotland. When I told Chris (my bf), I could tell he was upset but he never really showed it. My friend, Emz, has been asking me what I'll do when I move, whether I'll stay with Chris or leave him. I really love him and I don't know how to reply. Today he said he was looking for a car so he could come up and see me whenever he wanted. I was really happy but then doubt crept into my mind.

I've had al long-distance relationship before, which ended up in both of us cheating on each other, and then i dumped him. I have this doubt that it will happen to me and Chris, but i know i love him and i could never cheat on him, but I'm not sure about him.

I just need someone's advice as to whether i should stay with him when i move and risk getting my heart broken, or break both our hearts before i go.

SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!

Poliwag · 06-14-2009, 11:24 AM

Well, I'll offer you my advice.

You shoud sit down with chris and tell him your true feelings. That you love him but you are scared the relationship will fall too pieces. If Emz tries to convice you otherwise, you need to slap that bitch up.

**Brandy** · 06-14-2009, 11:34 AM

^That STARTED as good advice but then quickly went down the drain

Just talk to him , tell him how you feel and i'm sure the two of you could work something out, like weekends at eachothers houses or whatever.

TheLittleHippy. · 06-15-2009, 07:27 AM

At least there was no goats in this story.

If you love him and want it to work then it will, otherwise it won't. By you having doubts it shows that you don't trust him or yourself. Maybe it's time to move on before you hurt each other and it turns out bad.

Reverence · 06-15-2009, 10:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Poliwag

Well, I'll offer you my advice.

You shoud sit down with chris and tell him your true feelings. That you love him but you are scared the relationship will fall too pieces. If Emz tries to convice you otherwise, you need to slap that bitch up.

Nice
I agree :]
although the violence shudnt occur o.0

N3phiLim · 06-16-2009, 04:59 AM

hmm......as far as i think.....long distance relations NEVER work.
it only happens in movies. the guy and girl end the relationship and then they meet again after 2 or 3 years and start dating again........but thats all movie stuff.......in real life it doesnt really happen like that.
so here is my advice: Talk to Chris, see what he wants, figure something out.......im not much of a romantic so dont mind my cold advice.....but i want you to think seriously about whether you REALLY "LOVE" him or not and is he worth all your efforts.........best of luck......=D

AnthonyJGizzarelli · 06-16-2009, 09:03 PM

I agree with N3phiLim. I've had only one long distance relationship, we were only a few hours away, and we both had our licenses. It didn't work out. You will lose either trust, feelings, or both in each other and you both will end up being hurt.

On the other side, every situation is different. I have had friends who have had long relationships work and they are happy and don't cheat on each other. It all depends on your relationship. You need to talk to Chris and mutually figure out what the hell you guys are going to do.

Disenchanted · 06-21-2009, 04:21 AM

Well you should make your decision on whether or not you want to stay with him without our suggestions... the obvious talk to him.... I know of long distance relationship that ave worked but by that I mean like 3-4 hours away soo i don't now how far away you are =/. If you're able to see him then it should be alright but it's something you're going to have to talk over. Trust is probably the most important thing, it won't work without it. If you decide to stay together and manage to keep it like that then you should talk about it again in a couple of months to see if it's working.

And don't cheat on him whatever you do, I know you said you wouldn't but just to ad. If you wish to do something with someone else at least be descent enough to break up with him first, it's the right thing to do.

All in all it's your decision and it'll take a lot of effort to keep your relationship together. You have to figure out if it's worth it and how much you love him and how much it'll hurt and effect your relationship.

Good luck.